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How should you know whether to delay having sex with the new guy you've been seeing? Are there any benefits to waiting? What are some of the pros and cons to holding off for a while before you begin sleeping together? Deciding when to become sexually intimate with a new man can be a difficult decision; yet, there are several advantages if you decide to delay having sex for a while.

Social attitudes towards premarital sex have relaxed dramatically over the last twenty to thirty years. Prior to this, young girls in particular were frowned upon if it was revealed that they had been sexually active outside of marriage. Nowadays, casual sex has become an accepted practice and moral judgment is at a minimum.

However, engaging in casual sex or having sex too early on in a relationship can cause personal difficulties or difficulties in the relationship. First of all, if you choose to have sex very soon after meeting a guy, you could be sending out the wrong signals. By delaying sex, you are letting a guy know that sexual intimacy for you exists hand in hand with emotional intimacy. You are sending the message that you are looking for a deeper relationship before deciding to sleep with a guy.

Second, if you wait until later on, your guy's intentions also become more evident. Should he move on if you ask him to wait a while, then he obviously was not interested in pursuing a devoted relationship. However, if he shows no objections, then his intentions are clearly zoned in on building something serious with you.

Finally, sex in itself can never be the foundation for any relationship. It can only add to one that is strong; one that is based on an emotional connection. If this longevity is what you desire, then it is best if you delay having sex so that your emotional bond can form and strengthen as time progresses.